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Knowing Your Self-Worth


Greetings from a gorgeous Baltimore today! Those Spring vibes are, definitely, upon us, and talk about a mood changer. So much so, it has been hard for me to stay focused enough to sit down and get writing. Btw, how is it Thursday already?!?! Shifting gears to something I have been thinking a lot about recently; that is knowing your self-worth.

And, for the longest time, this was very fuzzy for me.

One of my favorite quotes by Brene Brown has been a mantra that I have strived to live by – “owning our story, and loving ourselves through that process, is one of the bravest things we will ever do.” Recently, I have felt (and noticed) a huge shift when it comes to knowing my own, personal self- worth. While I have always “known,” the best way I can compare it is when your gut is telling you something, and you know [deep down] it is true, but you tell yourself another story.

You convince yourself the complete opposite, and that is what you start believing.

Post divorce, I watched a huge change in myself. I began feeling – and telling myself for that matter – this is what I deserved. I couldn’t understand what I did wrong but, for some reason, I did. What I cared about, and my feelings, obviously, did not matter…maybe this is how it is going to be in future relationships? 

Knowing your self-worth; it may be hard to see the forest for the trees at times but the best thing you can do is keep on walking, navigate the struggles, and learn a LOT about yourself in the process.

This is exactly what I have done over the past 6 years. 

The people who have come into my life, the places I have traveled, and the experiences I have gone through have been life lessons and huge game changers for me & my process.

When I look back on these things now, some do come with an eyebrow raise, laughter, and even a “wtf.” It’s kind of like looking at your high school graduation picture. UGH. But these are the very things that have brought me to this point in my life where I know, more than ever, I will never settle for less than what I deserve.

Knowing my self-worth, and the standards/expectations I uphold, will never be questioned…that is, by me. And that is the only thing that matters. I have spent too long thinking/feeling that what I want, or how I feel, does/did not matter. At the end of the day, all the things that I wanted 10-15 years ago are still very much part of me, but now, I have a stronger confidence and drive than ever before.

Knowing your self-worth; it’s just like listening to your gut.


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