What is your love language? Is that too bold to ask right out of the gates? Hey, hey, hey!! How are you feeling on this first Monday of July? Still coming out of your 4th of July hangover? Regardless if it involved yummy cocktails – like the one I will be showcasing tomorrow – I really hope it was fantastic!
Back to the love languages! I got talking with my friend earlier today about this very question so I thought I would go ahead and re-evaluate mine. It has been a few years ago since I read the book so I thought I would get a refresher. Really, a much needed reminder!
If you are not familiar, or need a reminder, too, you can even take the quiz HERE.
My answer – Quality Time. Actually, that seems about right. One of the biggest things that lacked in my marriage, as well as in past relationships, was QUALITY TIME. While my life looks like it is go, go, go, travel, 80+ hour work weeks, and much more, at the end of the day, I would trade all of it.
I would trade it to be able to have a romantic date night or weekend catching up with my guy, or have coffee in bed on a Sunday morning just talking about life, and, well, I don’t want to get too sappy but you get it. So much of my relationship history has been broken promises, lonely nights & weekends, long distance catch ups only for it to be a “non-stop, let’s spend it with a group of people, type situation,” etc.
And that is what I yearn for so much. And, I will be honest, I need to communicate it a whole lot better than what I have done in the past. Sometimes, it just needs to be said loud and clear. My needs need to be expressed or, let’s face it, I will never be in a happy relationship. All of our love languages are about vulnerability. Being able to share and communicate your wants and needs is extremely important.
At the end of the day, if the person can not meet or understand what you are asking for, then, are they the right person for you?
Now, go find out your love language! And, my advice, check it often and keep it in check too! Have an awesome week!